Oh Crap! Boys and Potty Training with Jenny Phelps

Now that Ronan is two years old, I'm slowly introducing him to his very own potty chair. He's having fun with it - carrying it to different rooms and having every doll sit on it. I did the same with Caiden by starting at two but he only became insterested in learning when was 2.5 years old and was fully potty trained before his third birthday. I can't expect the process/timing will be the same with Ronan and to be honest...I'm dreading the idea of potty training again. There's still so many questions (even though I'm an experienced potty trainer LOL) and luckily I have "Oh Crap" certified potty trainer, Jenny Phelps to help! Read what Jenny has to say about Boys + Potty Training...

As a potty trainer, I often encounter questions about boys and potty training. As a Boy-Mom, I’m sure you’ve heard that boys train later, or that they are harder to train than girls. Good news! This just isn’t true. While boys are capable of potty training in the same age range as girls, there are some… “mechanics” that are a little bit different for boys than girls. 

Here are your top questions about potty training boys, answered! 

I heard boys potty train later. Is that true? As I mentioned before, boys don’t potty train at a different age than girls. The ideal age range for boys AND girls is 20-30 months. Already past this mark? Don’t worry! This is the ideal range – when we find it to be easiest to potty train. Of course, you can potty train later as well.

Is potty training harder for boys than girls? No, not really. If anything (good news for you) it can be *easier* to potty train boys because it’s easier and more socially acceptable for them to pee anywhere! Having worked with many pairs of boy/girl twins I can tell you that sometimes the boy “gets it” first, and sometimes the girl does. Every child has their own learning curve. 

Do I teach him to pee sitting or standing? Teach him to pee sitting. Kids need to sit to learn to poop (which for most kids is harder to learn than pee). Until your child is comfortably pooping in the potty, don’t teach to pee standing up. Exception: if they have a natural inclination to stand (like it becomes a power struggle to get them to sit) then roll with it. 

So, when do I teach them to stand? Basically, there’s no rush to do this. When they can stand in front of the potty and are tall enough to actually get the pee in the potty, go for it. 

Are there any boy-specific potty training items I should purchase? I don’t recommend many potty training products in general. You can find my recs on my products page (http://ohcrappottytrainingwithjenny.com/products) – my recommended potty has a good splash guard (actually, this is important for girls too!). When working with parents of boys, I have never needed to use a kid’s urinal, special toys to help them aim, or any other extra boyspecific products. Save your $$! 

How do I teach him to aim? Potty training sitting, this is easier than it sounds. You can gently hold his penis down for him, teach him to hold it down himself, or my preferred method: teach him to lean forward a bit which naturally points the penis down. Once you’re working on standing, a cheerio in the toilet to help aim is sufficient. 

What about night-time? Don’t boys wet the bed more than girls? THIS is true. However, it is still a small percentage of kids for whom bedwetting is an issue, and it is FAR more likely to happen if you or your partner wet the bed – scientists have found a genetic element to this. By age 5, 15% of kids wet the bed, with twice as many boys versus girls making up that number. This is a significant percentage, but still small. So, this does NOT mean that you should assume this will be your child, and I always recommend that you work on night-time potty training with your child by age 3 or 3.5 at the latest, regardless of whether you have a boy or girl. If your child continues to wet the bed with sustained night-time intervention from parents, then it would be a good idea to talk to your doctor about enuresis or look into potty alarm solutions. You can read up more on bedwetting here (http://www.webmd.com/children/features/bedwettingcauses#1). 

Now that you’re armed with this knowledge, the next step is to learn more about potty training techniques. Of course, I recommend picking up a copy of “Oh Crap” (http://amzn.to/2oDfb2Q), or attending a class (http://ohcrappottytrainingwithjenny.com/classes) to learn all my tips and tricks.

Jenny Phelps is part of the first generation of Oh Crap Certified potty training experts. After potty training her own daughter at 20 months using “Oh Crap”, she naturally started helping friends through this difficult milestone. In 2015, she trained and worked directly with the “Pied Piper of Poop” - founder of OCPT Jamie Glowacki - to receive her OCPT certification, and has since coached 100’s of parents through every type of potty training issue imaginable. She has been a college educator for a decade and brings this extensive experience in adult education to her work as a potty training consultant. Her potty training business, Oh Crap Potty Training with Jenny, is based out of Los Angeles and operates globally. She provides one on one coaching via web, phone & skype, and teaches potty training classes in person and online.

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